Bisexual Threesome

Bisexual threesome between two women and one man, referred to as male/female/female (MFF) Why it’s problematic: Another popular porn search, with tens of thousands of videos out there, are MFF threesomes. In these videos, all parties are sexually active with one another. The women in these videos are fetishized and objectified. Their presence and their actions, are for the sole purpose of the male in the video. It’s a classic example of female objectification for the male gaze.

Bi porn primarily exists in threesomes or orgies. There needs to be three or more people in order for it to be considered bi porn. Why it’s problematic: Bisexuality is often erased, when, as a bisexual, you’re in a relationship with a single person. If you’re a man in a relationship with a woman, you’re considered straight. If you’re a man in a relationship with a man, you’re considered gay. According to this logic, a man is only bisexual if he is polyamorous (dating people of various genders). Only then, as he actively dates a man and woman, is he truly bisexual.

Of course this is nonsense. Similarly, often only single people are considered bisexual (because at this point they’re dating and/or sleeping with multiple genders). When you’re in a committed relationship, all of this disappears. So this perpetuates the stereotypes of having to be actively dating or sexual with men and women in order to be bisexual.

These four tropes in bisexual porn seem to encompass the vast majority of videos tagged as “”bisexual””. Not all, and there are videos of men and women being intimate in a way where no party is objectified, and everyone is enjoying themselves. However, those videos seem to be few and far between. Let me clarify. I’m not attempting to discourage you from watching porn, but I am encouraging you to consume your pornography consciously.

I know that’s not the mindset you want to have when you’re watching pornography, but there’s no question that watching thousands of videos from an impressionable age — linking our pleasure to these problematic videos — will affect us. Being 25, I’m part of the first generation of men who grew up with high-speed Internet access to porn.

Bisexual Orgy

My friends and I didn’t stick nuded mags underneath our beds. It was a thing of the past by the time I was 12. My generation and the ones younger than me, are becoming (if not already are) adults. We’re dating men and women, and we’re having sex. We’re trying to figure out our identity and how we treat the people we date. We’re trying to make sense of the world with the rapid changes that occur as a result of the proliferation of technology.

We need to start discussing the impact of Internet pornography immediately, as we’re not sure exactly how watching thousands of videos of graphic, explicit, and misrepresenting pornography is going to affect this and future generations. I’ll be honest. I’m not sure how it’s going to influence us, but I can safely claim that it’s not helping to break down stereotypes about bi people. And while I haven’t looked at in depth, I doubt it’s doing a service to other marginalized groups including women, trans folk, and people of color either.